Category Archives: gaslighting

8 Signs You Were Raised By A Narcissistic Mother

“When you have a narcissistic mother, you have a mother who is unstable, you have a mother who has anger issues, you have a mother who is highly critical of you, you have a mother who is very defensive, you … Continue reading

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Your Father, You Say?

If my mother becomes aware of any reference to my father, however vague, she goes out of her way to steer the conversation around to hurling insults at him. This is how it’s been for 48 years and counting: Me: … Continue reading

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The Big Flick

If I were commissioned to write a movie script based on these years of my life this would be my rough draft. The longtime family bookkeeper – a wife and mother of 4 – steals her family’s entire savings. But … Continue reading

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A Strange Place To Be

“It’s no secret that narcissists don’t react well to rejection. When faced with rejection, they may try to conspire to turn everyone against you. If this happens, you may need to stand your ground and share your truth.” What Happens … Continue reading

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The Drama of Gaslighting

A drama about real events ——————————————————— ACT 1 / SCENE 1A VERY NORMAL DAY [ACTION!] Mark is at Mother’s house. It’s mid afternoon. Mark and Mother are casually talking in the living room. Mother is in her recliner, Mark is … Continue reading

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Kicking Up

In the late 70s I was working at the Pizza Hut in Ronkonkoma, NY. The pay was chump change, but I really enjoyed the few years I was there. My mother kept track of the days, hours and minutes I … Continue reading

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My Father’s Poison

Love blinds us. If it doesn’t blind us, it’s not love. Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a personality disorder characterized by a life-long pattern of exaggerated feelings of self-importance, an excessive need for admiration, a diminished ability or unwillingness to … Continue reading

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My Stomach Ache

I was about 8 years old. My father wasn’t home. I told my mother I had a stomach ache. I wasn’t keeling over or anything. Probably something I ate was backfiring – too much Halloween candy, downed too much soda … Continue reading

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When Pigs Fly

My father wasn’t home, I was 7 or 8 years old. I was in our bathroom, standing in front of the sink, facing the mirror and screaming. My mother was standing behind me and was physically forcing a bar of … Continue reading

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Ding Dong

I answered the front door of our home at 4 o’clock in the morning. I turned on the porch light to reveal 6 police officers positioned in various locations on the lawn with their guns drawn and aimed at ME. … Continue reading

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